Pleasure & Desire
The Hunger Games of Adult Sex Lives
The most common question I am asked is how I got into doing my work. People tend to find it fascinating, and truly, it is. I know people intimately in a way that few others do. I have very tender conversations with people about their sexuality and their sex lives and their fears in their […]
When Your Sexual Energy is Blocked
We all have a bowl inside us, a well, a deep gorge of energy that is our core sexual energy. For many people, that energy is buried deep, smothered, depleted, seemingly inaccessible. For others, it is alive, vibrant, flowing and rich. No matter the state of your sexual well, you’ve got one. If you feel […]
No More Sexless Holidays!
It’s that holiday time again, the time of joy, cheer, holy union, time to be with family, the warmest time of the year, right? So many expectations go into the holidays and what will happen. If you are in a new relationship there is the new relationship giddiness, or meeting the family for the first […]
A Thanksgiving Prayer for Sexuality
On this Thanksgiving day, I want to offer a prayer of gratitude for my sexuality and for yours. Stream the Thanksgiving Prayer audio here. Spirit, Universe, Creator, Source, All that Is, I am so grateful for my sexuality. I am so grateful for my body, for the pleasure that I get to experience everyday for […]
Sex and the Scared Little One
I’m in a tricky business. I talk to people all the time who want to change their lives (it seems), and who want to break out bigger, and experience more sexually, because they KNOW there is more–and they just don’t know how. So they reach out to me, or someone else who works with people around […]
I’m Coming Out Poly
I’ve “come out” many times in my life. My coming outs are not usually big announcements, they just entail me living how I want to and not hiding it. But sometimes it’s really valuable to come out, to stand, be counted and seen. We’ve made a ton of progress on helping lesbian, gay and bisexual […]
How much can you tolerate?
CLICK BELOW TO LISTEN TO THE AUDIO BLOG This week I am in Phoenix, very hot Phoenix, and I have been thinking about the idea of the things that people tolerate. I hear all of the time about the things people are tolerating in their sexual lives that, a lot of time, they don’t even […]
Shame Kills Sex
This material is adapted from Amy Jo’s free telecall, “The 5 Biggest Mistakes Couples Make When It Comes to Sex… and What to Do About It.” The third common mistake couples makes is that they don’t deal with shame. Shame is keeping one or both partners from connecting or being closer and neither of them […]
Sex, Wine and Chocolate
Wine, chocolate, and cheese are a sensual trifecta that hint at life’s sensory pleasures–bringing sexuality into the mix creates a delightful event that all will enjoy! For this event, Sexy Napa is teaming up with ____. This is an exclusive event at Empire with limited availability for a smaller group of people eager to learn […]
Who is still “Defending Marriage”?
This week, the U.S. Supreme Court struck down the Defense of Marriage Act, an abysmal law that President Clinton signed into being during his term. That was a dark night in the Clinton years. I find it so interesting that a president who actually pushed the bounds of sexuality in daring to be a sexual […]
