Posts Tagged ‘damsel’
What Does Sexual Power Actually Mean?
Someone told me recently that having a women’s weekend called “Sex-Money-Power” sounds masculine. When I probed further, they said “power” is more of a man’s word and that women don’t really relate to it. I’ve been chewing on that idea and continuing to have conversations with people I met at TEDx last week with people [...]
Sex and the Scared Little One
I’m in a tricky business. I talk to people all the time who want to change their lives (it seems), and who want to break out bigger, and experience more sexually, because they KNOW there is more–and they just don’t know how. So they reach out to me, or someone else who works with people around [...]
The Sexual Agency of Miley Cyrus
Bad pop doesn’t interest me. Dumb performances on MTV that are another cookie cutter-ed shape made of the same old “it’s your job to be pretty and sexy” mold bore me. When Sinead O’Connor got involved in the controversy over Miley Cyrus this week, it peaked my interest, and I took notice, because we all know [...]
Is Your Diploma in “Not Enough?”
We’ve all heard about the historical legacy of women not making as much money as men for the same jobs—a pattern that (not) surprisingly still exists today. Part of the reason is that women are afraid to ask for raises or more money and are apologetic about it when they do; whereas, men make no [...]
The Subconscious Truth about Sexuality, Relationships, and Money
In this video, I teach about how the subconscious mind gets in the way of people making the money they want to make, having the sexual fulfillment they desire and feeling more powerful in their lives.
So…You Have Sex So that They’ll Like You?
In my life and work, I have been very attuned to the ways that people give away their power because they want other people to like them. I work with my clients and students on these issues directly.
The Second Damsel Trap: Your Lover is Not Going to ‘Fix’ You
If you don’t invest time and energy into your sexual satisfaction, it becomes like that damn light bulb in the hall closet that burned out so long ago, you can’t quite remember; you just feel irritated and annoyed each time you go to flick the switch and nothing happens.
Why does he need porn when he has ME?
Porn in 2013 has become the ubiquitous other woman. The porn debate is intense and complex for many people. I hear people talk about the role they think porn is playing in their sexual lives and I’ve noticed a big pattern where many women feel like it gets in the way of their being able to be intimate with their partners. Maybe that’s true, but I think there are other factors going on that I want to address in this article.
50 Shades of Sexual Self-Care
This morning I was interviewed by a reporter who wanted me to talk about BDSM and the “50 Shades” phenomenon. I woke early to make myself read more of 50 Shades of Grey because I didn’t feel well-prepared to talk about it. As I was reading, what I realized was this: a huge part of [...]
Vanquishing Your Inner Damsel
Women are often taught to expect salvation/redemption/fulfillment from other people. To empower yourself, confront your inner Damsel–the part of yourself that wants to be saved–and start taking responsibility for your own joy.