Posts Tagged ‘personal needs’
What’s the Value of Your Sex Life?
Multiple times a week I hear people say they want their sexuality to be a priority, they want to put more energy into it, or they want to stop putting their sex life on the back burner. My response is usually that if they really want their sexual life to change, they have to get it [...]
The 6 Most Common Reasons Women Ask for Sexual Support
My team has been analyzing some of the data I’ve been collecting over the years for why women approach me. We’ve narrowed it down to six key issues that people want help with when they contact me and what they focus on when they come into my sexual empowerment programs. I thought I’d share some of our [...]
Me and Dan Savage Disagree about Desire
I listen to Dan Savage’s Savage LoveCast and I frequently agree with him, often with loud cheers, and big “Yes, Dan, tell them!” type enthusiasm. I listened to the show he did a couple weeks ago where he addressed a 38-year-old virgin, desire, and romantic matches, and I want to take it from another angle. [...]
The Sovereign in the Creative & Sexual Journey
The ocean always feels like coming home, like my pen to the page. The setting for the act of writing matters inside and outside of the words. There is an art to finding the right place to create, what land, what ancestors, and what stories that live inside the rock and by reproduction, sand—will reveal [...]
Will You Forsake Your Sexuality for Security?
I speak to women all the time who are facing a major dilemma about how they’ve set up their lives: they have chosen a relationship that makes them feel safe, cared for, stable, and is a good place to raise their children. They have the consistency and show-up-ness of a steady, committed partner that makes [...]
The 5 Biggest Fears About Desire
I’ve been speaking and writing about desire lately because I believe that understanding and opening to desire is so central to living a fulfilled life. If you missed my call last week, “Claim Your Sexual Power: 5 Steps to Stop Fearing Your Desire and Start Living It,” I want to share my observations on the [...]
3 Reasons Why Desire is Absolutely Necessary
This week I invited people on my mailing list to send me their questions about sexuality and desire, and I really enjoyed getting the chance to read them and offer my analysis. Here’s some of what I heard: What’s with the ‘coming in waves’ thing? I just work up the “Yeah, this is really what [...]
What if my desire hurts somebody else?
This week I delivered my first TEDx talk in Napa Valley. On the break, I had exciting conversations with people about how they would parent their kids differently and how my talk gave them a new perspective on sexuality and its importance. One woman wanted to engage me about the idea of desire, because I [...]
The Truth About Confidence
Last year, I worked with an amazing and outspoken woman who came to me in the wake of a divorce from the only person she’d ever had sex with. Using my Confidence Type system I’d say she was truly a power player in the world, but she was incredibly insecure when it came to men—almost [...]
