Posts Tagged ‘shame’
The Hunger Games of Adult Sex Lives
The most common question I am asked is how I got into doing my work. People tend to find it fascinating, and truly, it is. I know people intimately in a way that few others do. I have very tender conversations with people about their sexuality and their sex lives and their fears in their [...]
From Sexual Trauma to Sexual Empowerment
There are days when I feel angry by how pervasive sexual abuse is in this world. It is a symptom of a very big problem and the sheer prevalence of it shows just how far we have to go in healing our planet. It’s so common it feels almost like a rite of passage–which is [...]
The Root of Men’s Performance Anxiety
Welcome to part 2 of my men’s series. In part one, I talked about why “Good Guys Finish Last” and the real issues behind the good guy/bad boy dichotomy. In this article, I want to go deeper and talk about the shame that men often feel around sexuality and how that holds them back from [...]
Shame Kills Sex
This material is adapted from Amy Jo’s free telecall, “The 5 Biggest Mistakes Couples Make When It Comes to Sex… and What to Do About It.” The third common mistake couples makes is that they don’t deal with shame. Shame is keeping one or both partners from connecting or being closer and neither of them [...]
Someone Called Me a “Slut” at My Business Conference
I am often amazed at what people think it’s okay to say to others, especially people who are perfect strangers. I was a sponsor at a business event last week and a woman came up to me at my booth and said, “Are you the sex lady? You’re a real slut aren’t you?”
Five Reasons People Stay In Shame Around Money & Sex
1. The lie of “Not enough ain’t good enough” You learned that there is something wrong or bad about you if you don’t have enough money or enough sex. You learn this from a very young age. With sex, you’re taught to have lots of sex, to be uber-sexual and to say “Yes”, yet you [...]
Five Reasons People Go into Shame Around Money & Sex
Sex and money are the two things we are judged about more than just about anything. They touch nearly every aspect of our lives in some way and they are linked to how we show up in relationship.
The Power of Speaking the Unspeakable
How often do you filter yourself and prevent yourself from speaking up about something that needs to be spoken? The world would be completely different if we were all fully self-expressed. That doesn’t mean everything has to be said, because it doesn’t and learning what doesn’t need to be said can be as important as [...]
Release Sexual Shame and Blockages: Sexually Empowered Life Step 2
We all have experiences of shame to work through at some point relating to our sexuality. To live a sexually empowered life, you need to directly work on your internal shame that keeps you from being the fully actualized sexual person you are meant to be.
