Posts Tagged ‘unrealistic expectations’
So You Want a Great Relationship?
I’ve been thinking a lot lately about commitment. Women often come to me because they want the perfect relationship. They want someone to show up for them, to be true, not to stray, to be present and authentic. They want to be fully loved. And they can’t figure out why they’ve never had that. Well, [...]
Why does he need porn when he has ME?
Porn in 2013 has become the ubiquitous other woman. The porn debate is intense and complex for many people. I hear people talk about the role they think porn is playing in their sexual lives and I’ve noticed a big pattern where many women feel like it gets in the way of their being able to be intimate with their partners. Maybe that’s true, but I think there are other factors going on that I want to address in this article.
No More Sexless Holidays!
It’s that holiday time again, the time of joy, cheer, holy union, time to be with family, the warmest time of the year, right? So many expectations go into the holidays and what will happen. If you are in a new relationship there is the new relationship giddiness, or meeting the family for the first [...]
Victimhood vs. Responsibility
I was interviewed a few weeks ago by a reporter who wanted to talk about 50 Shades of Grey and just why exactly so many women harbor the desire to be sexually submissive. (You can click here to hear the interview.) This question of submission and agency has been debated over and over by sexuality [...]
Five Reasons People Go into Shame Around Money & Sex
Sex and money are the two things we are judged about more than just about anything. They touch nearly every aspect of our lives in some way and they are linked to how we show up in relationship.
50 Shades of Sexual Self-Care
This morning I was interviewed by a reporter who wanted me to talk about BDSM and the “50 Shades” phenomenon. I woke early to make myself read more of 50 Shades of Grey because I didn’t feel well-prepared to talk about it. As I was reading, what I realized was this: a huge part of [...]
50 Shades of Sexual Self-Care
Part of taking over your own agency is that you learn how to take care of yourself, and it starts with your own sexual self-care. If you can’t show up for your own body and sexuality, how do you intend that other people will? YOU must lead.
Vanquishing Your Inner Damsel
Women are often taught to expect salvation/redemption/fulfillment from other people. To empower yourself, confront your inner Damsel–the part of yourself that wants to be saved–and start taking responsibility for your own joy.
How to Get What You Want
If you have believed in this lack for a long time, it will take some time to unravel it. And you can do it. Will you decide to claim the pleasure, joy, love, relationships, and gorgeous experiences that are your birthright? You are not meant to be miserable and deprived. You are meant to be free and creative. What life are you creating for you in this moment?
Why Men Don’t Get Help For Sex
Everyone has work to do on their sexuality at some point in their lives. I mean EVERYONE. The
majority of people, certainly the majority of men, will never do it. They will stay trapped with their
egos demanding an impossible performance of them.
